Chasing Cars.

They tell us not to compare because the comparisons will eat us alive. We will literally drive ourselves crazy if we keep comparing. But, how can we ever achieve better things for ourselves if we don't compare? When we go to buy a new car... we compare the specs and the price; we want the best deal. And absolutely, without a doubt in my mind, the same goes for a relationship. I have spent a lot of time avoiding comparing my last relationship with my current relationship, but anymore, it's a hard thing to do. True, I was not the one that deciding on the ending of my first relationship, but to me that is not the point. Okay, in car talk: It's like when you want the car of your dreams and it gets you by for a few years with troubles here and there, but then quits running on you one day. You are then left with no choice but to look for a new car. Except this time, you are looking for different specs, forget the price, unlike your last choice. Sometimes you just have to learn and I learned the hard way. When my relationship ended I had a coworker tell me that I was a "lifer", which means I would have stayed in that relationship no matter what; no matter if I was unhappy or whatever. At some point or another I had my blinders on and it really came to a point that I was just getting by. That's pretty much something that you never want to admit.. that you were just getting by. I don't want to spend my life just getting by. I spent 4+ years in a relationship that I thought was right. As it turned out, to my surprise, it wasn't. It was, in fact, that dream car that was getting me by with troubles and finally broke down, leaving me no choice but to look for something else.. something better. As it turns out, car shopping is very difficult, but when you find the right one.. you know.